How I Found Myself After A Breakup

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Let’s face it breakups are never easy. There are times when you’re reminded of the past. There are people around you who questions about what happened and why didn’t it work out. You yourself thinking did you do the right thing or not and so forth. Today I’m gonna get a little deep and talk about how I found myself including the things I did and did not do after my separation.

WHAT I DID:

I Expressed Myself Through What I Love

One of my many passions is dancing. I quit dancing years ago, and I decided to go back. It was probably one of the best decisions I have ever made after the separation. I found myself staying at home a lot thinking about my past relationship, and it was just not healthy for me physically and mentally. As I started dancing, I was able to get my mind off of things and express how I felt through dancing. Dancing to me was therapy and I’m so glad I went back.

  • Through dancing, I was able to find confidence and independence within myself!

I Went Out and Tried New Things

It could be anything such as trying a new sport or even reading a new book. For me, I went to many cafes I discovered downtown, went to my first spring festival, and started this blog! As for going to cafes, I was able to walk around downtown with my friends and talk about life over a cup of warm coffee. I also went to a spring festival ( I blogged about it a couple of weeks ago so check it out if you would like to). The spring festival was a very therapeutic event for me. It was kind of in the middle of nowhere, and I felt like I was away from the busy world. I just got to relax and even played and held little baby goats and bunnies. Last but not the least, I started my own blog. I have always wanted to express myself and share my experiences, but I didn’t know how to. I actually tried to start a youtube channel years ago, but I just wasn’t comfortable talking to the camera. As I discovered and learned more about blogging, I became very interested and loved it instantly. Going out and trying new things was extremely helpful!

  • Through going out and trying new things, I was able to realize that there is so much more to life and that I should be more optimistic!

WHAT I DID NOT DO:

Check On My Ex

One of the things that I was contemplating over was looking him up and seeing how his life was. To be frank, I actually really wanted to. I feel like everyone has been there at least once. After thoughtfully thinking about it, I decided that I should not do it. It won’t get me anywhere, and this person isn’t in my life anymore; there is no point. I’m actually glad that I didn’t because I was able to focus on myself rather than focus on something that isn’t there anymore.

  • Through not checking on my ex, I was able to check on myself and find myself!

No, I am no dating expert or relationship strategist, but I thought this could help out many people who are going through a tough time in their relationship. It doesn’t even have to be a relationship with your significant other, it could be a relationship with just anyone, honestly. I hope today’s topic wasn’t too mundane and didn’t bore too many of you. I hope you all liked it and leave a comment below if you’d like! I would love to see everyone’s opinions and thoughts!

 

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